Time To Move

Our children broke the news that they are planning on relocating to North Carolina. Why North Carolina.

“We’re tired of trying to gain a foothold, here in California. We want better schools for our children without having to pay an arm and a leg to private schools.” California may be the wealthiest State in the Union, but it rates 26th out of 50, where North Carolina is 16th out of 50. Ratings are always changing. School Ratings By State  If a child falls into the category of upper or upper middle class, these families most likely can reside in a better school district. Those who are unable to live in the better school district, fall into the category of not succeeding. Of course, this statement is based on averages.

This conversation took place two years (2016) ago. Mom and Dad scratched their heads contemplating the future ahead without the son and daughter, but the grandchildren are the primary focus.

We have heard all the stories about grandparents following grandchildren. The grandchildren’s parents move around due to career opportunities. Grandchildren grow to become teenagers, grandparents become less critical. Actually, the teenage years will happen no matter if the grandparents are close or off in some distant land. Californians moving to the South? How would that mix with our personalities?

We weighed all the pros and cons, listened to all the advice. We decided to travel to North Carolina, after discovering the areas that our children were contemplating. Once we flew back, spent a few days in the Charlotte area, the Ashville area, we knew it was going to be difficult making a final decision. The difficulty was not the move necessarily, but Ashville is a beautiful area. The winter climate is harsher then the flatter plains, that would be something we would need to adjust too.

The First To Move

Our son and son-in-law traveled back to scope out several areas around the Charlotte area. With Charlotte becoming the financial capital of the United States, this city is growing with the construction of all types of buildings. The millenniums are taking over the city. No place for the retired.

Mooresville, North Carolina is a great area for young families. Schools are rated high for the State and Nation; grandkids will be given a running chance at life with a solid education. Jobs are plentiful, that opens the door for the parents. Cost of living is less than in California. Mooresville, NC   This will be the first time for this family to live in a three bedroom home. A yard, nestled in a young and growing community. Close to schools, shopping, and activities for the family.

The town is on the edge of Lake Norman, the largest man-made lake in the U.S., owned by Duke Energy. The State Park offers camping, educational talks, and plenty of hiking trails. Duke Energy Parks

Trilogy to Trilogy – 

Trilogy Lake Norman North Carolina

IMG_1089Years of residing in the Contra Costa area makes it difficult, for the grandparents in deciding to move. Another factor is the process of packing, planning for the storage of personal items, furniture, temporary residence while our new home is completed being constructed. Oh, don’t forget to separate things to maintain your hygiene and clothing while other items sit in storage.

We reside within an active adult community, Trilogy At The Vineyards located in Brentwood, California. We have lived with the activities, the lifestyle, the excitement. Trilogy On Lake Norman offers the same lifestyle as the one we currently reside. But we didn’t stop searching for other active adult communities to move. After our search, it was Trilogy that we wanted. Easy decision, but difficult to decide on purchasing a resale or building. That decision was made for us, there were no resales of the models we wanted.

Off to see the salesperson whom we have dealt with for the past two years. To discuss the cost of building another new home; this time in Denver North Carolina near Lake Norman and across the lake from Mooresville. The family will be near to the grandparents for holiday dinners.

The decision was comfortable, with homes less expensive than in California. The same associated community that will lend itself to commonality in lifestyles.

Ducks in Order

Moving is an overwhelming task, and this task is strained no matter if it is relocating to around the corner or across the nation. In our case, it is across the country and based on our California home selling. Do we have a contingency plan if our home doesn’t sell? Guess if it takes that long, we could become landlords. Though the trend on homes up for sale, do not end up becoming rentals because of not selling. So our house is on the market, any interested parties?

In planning one must consider movers, storage, temporary housing, driving to the new State versus having the car(s) transported. The timing of having the movers to pack the items to be moved. Selling or donating the articles not to be moved. Maintaining the home for sale in showcase fashion and departing the house for someone to view in consideration of purchase. The most expensive portion is the move itself. Vehicle transportation was priced at $1,600 from California to North Carolina.

The number of individuals or couples who are out for an afternoon drive, deciding to stop in for viewing at first are overwhelming, As the newness wains, the earnest buyers trickle in for consideration. There have been many times where an emotional decision of the first crowd decides to purchase.

Once a buyer has decided to purchase, then all of the inspections start. Contractors in and out for various inspections, appraisers, must agree with the price and the new buyer wants you out so they can move into their new home, and you want to get out to end this nerve testing task.

When all is over, and you are in your new home, let out that big sigh of relief. Taking in the new surroundings, all of a sudden the front door opens and run in the screaming grandchildren. Whats to eat!





Family Roots

Why do individuals decide to move outside their native State? What would be the appeal of moving to a different population climate? Less expensive, slower life pace, heritage, there are many reasons.

We are traveling to North Carolina to explore retirement communities and to experience climate. Our children and grandchildren are seriously considering moving for a better way of life. Housing, wages, opportunities, and the slower lifestyle has become indicing for them. If the grandchildren and parents move, grandma and grandpa will follow.

Researching my heritage has pointed my research to North Carolina, the state that many of my family landed or traveled from New York to North Carolina to reside and farm.  Other members lived in North and South Carolina, then moving western at the request of the Government. Interesting how I am able of tracing family traveling the Eastern States finding good soil to grow. I have discovered distant cousins who fought in the American Revolution. The same of two brothers who, also, were distant cousins residing in North Carolina, one entering the Union Forces and one the Confederates. Remind you of our history class and being told that brother fought against brother.

Grandma Nan & Aunt Margie

My Cherokee Great Great Grandmother Nan Hair with her granddaughter Margie Barnett

An interesting fact that was not well publicized was the choice of my military service, United States Marine Corps, where attached to the Confederacy. There were attachments in the Union forces; United States Navy utilized their ships for attacks up and down many of the rivers along the east coast. Example, the first shot fired to begin the war, was fired from a Confederate ship, attacking Fort Sumter. The Marines throughout history, have been part of the Navy, protecting their ships and officers.

Asheville, North Carolina

Quaint artist city and home of the University of North Carolina. Liberal in nature, though I have never visited a University City that was not liberal. Something to be said for the academic world, opening the mind of youth absorbing all knowledge and that which has been discovered. Without that attitude and choice of mental process, would our world be where it is today, technologically, scientifically, physically, literately even theologically?

Our visit to this Mountain area was to explore active adult retirement communities. Visiting two retirement communities, along with the surrounding area, we knew that this would be the place to visit, for I  those in their retirement years, these communities of yesteryear do not comply with those who are still very active.

Visiting Asheville requires a minimum of an entire day touring George Washington Vanderbilt II (November 14, 1862 – March 6, 1914) estates. He was an art collector and member of the prominent Vanderbilt family, which had amassed a considerable fortune through steamboats, railroads, and various business enterprises. He built the 250-room Biltmore House, the largest home in the United States.

George decided to construct his country mansion and estate in 1888. For this purpose he acquired 130,000 acres in North Carolina, hiring architect Richard Morris Hunt to design a limestone house modeled on the Chateau de Blois. With up to five acres of floor space, this is believed to be the most significant domestic dwelling ever constructed in the United States.

At Biltmore, George led the life of a country gentleman. Having a great interest in horticulture and agriscience, he oversaw experiments in scientific farming, animal bloodline breeding, and silviculture (forestry). His goal was to run Biltmore as a self-sustaining estate. In 1892, Olmsted suggested that Vanderbilt hire Gifford Pinchot to manage the forests on the estate. According to Pinchot, who went on to be the first Chief of the United States Forest Service, Biltmore was the primary professionally managed forest in the U.S.

After his death, George’s widow sold approximately 86,000 acres of the Biltmore property to the US Forest Service at $5 an acre, fulfilling her husband’s wishes to create the core of Pisgah National Forest. She sold additional land as finances demanded; today, about 8,000 acres remain. Edith Dresser Vanderbilt later married Peter Goelet Gerry (1879–1957), a United States Senator from Rhode Island. Cornelia Stuyvesant Vanderbilt (George and Edith Vanderbilt’s only child) married British aristocrat, John F. A. Cecil, a descendant of William Cecil in 1924. Her sons, George and William, eventually inherited the property. George Cecil, the older of the two sons, chose to inherit the majority of the estate’s land and the Biltmore Farms Company, which was more profitable than the house at the time. The younger son, William Cecil was thus left with Biltmore House and is credited with preserving the chateau which (though still privately owned) has been opened to the public. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Washington_Vanderbilt_II

Charlotte, North Carolina

Gold rush 1799

Levine Museum of the New South – an adventure through the history from slavery to freedom. Showing newscasts of busing black students to upper established high schools to force desegregation. April 1971. President Richard Nixon spoke out that he was against busing. Once again he was wrong, though he was wrong about plenty of topics.

Billy Graham was from Charlotte North Carolina. Graham was a born-again Christian to go on and lead a revolution into a country of morals.

Charlotte was cotton fields, other agricultural growth.

Enough history, let us move back to present day.

We reside in Trilogy at the Vineyards in Brentwood, California. A resort type retirement community. Enjoying the various activities, art club, photography, hiking, even traveling on daily adventures.

Our children announced they were moving to North Carolina, a less expensive living style. Needless to say, if the grandchildren relocate, the grandparents are not far behind. Researching retirement communities in North Carolina, I discovered another Trilogy at Lake Norman, East of Charlotte. Same Builder, same Club management, this would allow for constancy in quality of the building, club management, and various facilities.

Charlotte North Carolina Today

Thriving City, the Financial Capital of the East coast.

A melting pot, from around the world.

Reasonable living costs, housing, dining, sporting events, transportation,

People are friendly

Trilogy on Lake Norman an active adult community, an ongoing play land for adults. Full service resturant with choices from vegan to southern style cuisene. Boating, painting and pottery. More to offer then our existing Trilogy offers. Those with health concerns the chef, at Trilogy on Lake Norman, understands what is required for a proper healh diet.


Resturant Bar area during Friday Night Live Entertainment

Every home backs up to wetlands filled with trees and wildlife. Eleven miles of natural trails and six miles of paved trails for hiking with your dog. A dog friendly community, with a dog park for social activities for the canine.

We choose Trilogy on Lake Norman with all its Southern charm.


Our view from the back of the home 


Hiking paths



Live concert pravillion